EMBRACING THE OTHER SIDE.
A question is summarized thus ” I don’t know if I should be worried that my husband bears the burden of going to the market and cooking for me. Though a busy Chef, he even takes out times to assist me with major cookings. Should that get me worried? “
While there are traditional roles for men and women as there are for husbands and wives, there are no scripturally prescribed, hard and fast rules about who does what and duties execution, especially between couples. What we have is clear position of husband as head and wife as helpmeet. How these play-out in their homes is based on the style they adopt and their mutual uniqueness.
For instance, a traditional African man proudly shoulders the burden of washing cars and driving his wife and family. However, there are instances where the wife is better at driving and maintenance than the husband. She does it as a hobby with ease and even better than the husband.
In the above question, the husband’s hobby seems to be the “kitchen practicals” type. Wisdom tell that they should walk in understanding and build their marriage out of that knowledge, without relinguishing their God- ordained positions of headship and helpmeet.
Every marriage is unique, hence, cannot be run as a prototype of another, though we can and often draw good lessons from others.
In this light, there’s nothing to worry about, as long as both of them embrace the status.
“The Other Side” however must not be overlooked or brushed aside. As a matter of prudence, it should be well provided for.
By “The Other Side”, I mean where there are such roles flexibilities, it might result in deficiencies in other areas. A man who sees cooking as hobby might naturally consider some traditional roles like decisiveness a big chore. So, as wife, you might have to step-up to step-in at interval on such grounds without being irate. You must consider “The Other Side” of the enjoyment.
Ephesians 5:22-28 MSG
“Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. … Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives , exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, .. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor—since they’re already “one” in marriage”.
Meditate and think on these things👌🏽✍🏽😇
David Nkenchor ( P.D ) Point-Man, MOK Happily Married with Children Pastor/Counselor/Life- Coach
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